Positive wishes

today I have heard the information that made me so disappointed.
many people in the organization behaved inappropriate.

lack of professionalism
leaders lack of leadership
lack of sense of responsibilities
lack of decision making
lack of team player
selfish and self-oriented
no bravery and wisdom
no sense of belonging

absolute disappointing

for that matter, what can i do?

suddenly i realize, all i can ever do is praying, wishing and hoping for the goodness and kindness to come to and touch those people.

i wish for the love, kindness, truly happiness, goodness, wisdom and everything good to come among us all.

whenever we think of positive things, there will be no room for the opposite.

let's share the goodness
share the kindness
share the wisdom
share the professionalism
share the love

then we will all be able to live with the true happiness

in God's blessings

amien

Voshan enters a playgroup

It has been twice visit of my Voshan to join his class of playgroup. Actually he had been into the same class three times, but the first time was a free trial.

I was not surprised though that he still could not really stand still when we were supposed to gather around. Voshan is still enjoying himself and likes to do things on his own. It's not that he can't share at all. It's just he is not ready or not comfortable yet among a lot of people or even small groups of strangers.

And when you want him to attend or watch anything new, do not expect it to last more than a minute. But when he gets familiar and used to and even grow to like it, then you can be sure that he can stand all night watching the show. Well, at this moment, to draw his attention, we can get him to watch Diego, Dora, Teletubbies or Baby TV shows.

Even I enrolled him to a playgroup, I don't expect too much, I just want him to be able to play and meet other kids in his similar ages..and certainly so that he can have a great times of his early life.

Better Lifetimes - my new blog

Hello...
just to let you know that I recently published my new blog called Better Lifetimes.
please check it out here http://betterlifetimes.blogspot.com
and don't forget to post your comment or simply leave me a message on the chatbox.

Happy blogging!

Voshan's 2nd Birthday

Wow...almost hard to believe that my son has reached his second year of age..
Yes, on last August 30th, 2008, he celebrated his 2nd birthday..well, actually he still did not understand completely about the day...then who actually celebrated the day are me and his father, and also his grandparents, cousin, aunts and uncles..:p

Oh yes, quite extraordinary it was, that on the day, it rained almost all day..from mid day to the night...hmm...i wonder what that meant, let's just hope that it was the sign of happiness and prosperity...amien..:D

Voshan's New Haircut

This one I promise it's going to be short..:)Actually, I have written this post for a while, but I did not get any chance to publish it.
Now here it goes...:)

I'd like to show you the new haircut of my son, Voshan.

On that Saturday, I took him to Snippets to have his hair cut. And now you can see his new look. Somehow I think he's become more adorable but look naughty as well.

Well, what do you think??

Speaking about naughty, Voshan was being very naughty on the Monday after and that he was succeeded in making me skip work that day.

Since waking up in the morning, he just could not let me go, and he did not want to be with anyone but me. How naughty he was! Do you think it's because his new haircut?? Well, we just can't tell precisely..is it related anyway?? you tell me..hahaha..:D

Thankful to the Existence

today i checked the blog of my good friend, http://mybabyaurel.blogspot.com/, and saw how cute the mommy n the baby having fun on the swimming pool..just reminded me how fun it was to swim with my voshan..

and then i checked my own blog, and found that it had been a month since my last posting. how could that be? was i really that busy? or just lazy to write anything? :)

so here i am beginning to write again a new post.

I remember that July is almost over. Well it's a very special month for me, since it is the month where I had been born.
Actually it's my first birthday that i didn't celebrate with my parents.
It's the first one i celebrate at my home.
It's my first birthday that i didn't buy any birthday cake.
It's not that i don't afford to buy one..just thought that next month i'll be celebrating my son's birthday, so i think i will buy a big cake for both of us on voshan's birthday.
however, speaking of cakes, it reminds me of the blueberry cheese cake that we bought for our boss birthday, yummy...i think i will buy a cake today...(hmm, so impulsive..).

whatever..:)

actually i remember that i was pretty sad and mad that saturday, on my 31st birthday.
yes, on that day, my husband left me for his project.
and he did not come back until late afternoon.
and we did not buy any cake.
and we did not go out for birthday lunch.
and my parents did not come over.
and i did not get any birthday present.
and i just get through my ordinary saturday, i bought the vegetables from the seller who passed by, i cooked, i looked after my son, played the computer games,
and so on, and so on, pretty usual stuffs.
i felt 'wow, it's a pretty lame birthday'..

and then that night, finally we went out (didn't remember where), somewhere close by i guess..
my husband left me with my son in the car, and i received an sms from one of my best college friend,.."hi, have you had a great time on this birthday of yours?"
at that moment, i still felt not very good..but of course, i cannot tell that to her..not that way..
and then i took a deep breath and began to reply the sms,
"i'm just thankful that God still let me to have this beautiful life".....
wow, i who felt quite sad and mad, could actually type that sms??
and then all of a sudden, i can really feel thankful and very happy and gracious
and i can feel again how beautiful my life is now, and has been, and will be..

i am healthy, itchy sometimes, but i still can live..
i can live in my own home with my family
i have a family of my own
i have a great husband
i have the most beautiful child
all my close family are healthy, my hubby n son, my parents, my niece, my sis, my inlaws
i have a good job, sucks sometimes, but it's still ok
i have started my own business
my husband business going well
i have many good friends
i have a good boss
i have a maid
i have a car
my stomache is full
i can sleep well
i can laugh with all my heart

i am just so very happy for this beautiful life
and i am so very thankful and gratefull to God, the Existence, who still let me have this all :) :D

Thank God
Praise the Lord
Puji Tuhan

with the most humble and happiest heart and soul..

wikan sarwawidyasari
31 years old on july 19, 2008

Shocking News for me

I read an email from one of the mailing list, and I just shocked to hear the news. It said that there had been an 18 month-old baby killed by a Rottweiler dog. I am sure it was really devastating to the parents.

It was quite an old dog, 7 years old. How could that be??

Being a dog lover, I tried to analyse the case..:p and I came up with some reasons why the dog could harm and kill the baby.

1. The dog was starving

2. The dog had missed his regular vaccination

3. The dog somehow felt threatened by the baby

Actually I am not really know about Rottweiler dogs. I have never had one. So I do not know if it is one of the dogs that can be played with children, since I know some are clicked with children but some other cannot stand near children. Some dogs are like children and very childish. Therefore they do not like when there are other children who are close to their master. They felt jealous and threatened that his place will be taken place by the children.

In spite of my adoration for dogs, please be careful with your baby or children when you have dogs at home, especially if you do not know for sure how your dog is. Don't ever let your dogs starved. Don't miss their regular vaccination. Love them both by keeping your children save from your dog.

Speech Delay in Children

This topic was very much talked about in one of the mailist I join. Well, I guess somehow the fact has been tickling me, since my son which now is in his almost second year of age, has not been able to speak clearly. And I am not sure how many words he has learnt to speak.

One of the article I found from http://www.helium.com/ just now could be used as one of the guidances to recognise any speech delay in children. You can read the article via this link http://www.helium.com/items/1021528-recognizing-the-signs-of-speech-delay-in-children
Hopefully it can be useful to anyone who reads this blog.

A New Maid for Voshan

Finally, she had arrived at my home with her uncle. She is a new maid for my family, well especially for my son, Voshan.
Turned out she is still very young. She just finished her elementary school, that makes her around 12. Very young indeed.
She is also inexperienced with the job. Ok then, so I gave her some training of course. First I introduced her to the house and the room. And then I trained her how to wash clothes with the washing machine. Then she washed the dishes, and finished the laundry.
Relief I was that I have a new maid again finally. But there're also some tasks for me to train her to do the job well. Oh yes, I even trained her to use the gas stove..:)

Despite all that, I am still thanking God for giving us some assistance in taking care our home and child. Hopefully, she can do very well with all the jobs and chores, including taking care of my son, and she can remain here with my family for as long as required.

Also, wish her be kind and honest, since I think it is the most important in hiring anyone.

Wish me luck, my friends..:D

Online Business

Since end of last year, I had begun involved with online business or so called internet marketing.

I guess the background was that I really needed more income besides my regular salary. Furthermore, the business tends to build a network that eventually I can get passive income without me have to work hard for it..that is when your network has grown into a gigantic web..:)

The first one that I was interested in is being an Oriflame consultant via d'BC network, which is the network that makes the business done by online. It is a real business that actually can be done well also offline. That is why it's quite flexible. You can do it online as well as offline. Great opportunity!
To learn some details on the business, we can go to http://www.dbc-bisnisku.info/

The second one was electric cellular pulse--DYNASIS. One thing that interested me most at that time is the registration is free! So I thought I just had nothing to lose. It is very convenient actually. Can top up by myself. Do not have to find it outside. It is a very easy way to start a business.

I have my replica web that can be accessed here http://www.klikdynasis.net/?id=wi1324

The other one that could get my attention was an e-book about building your own website. It is actually a very easy way to learn about html and how to prepare a basic website. We can also offer the e-book to someone else and we can get 50% of the profit.:)

Everyone can get the e-book through my affiliate link http://www.PanduanDasarMembuatWebsite.com/?id=betterlifetimes

Most recent network that I joined is the internet marketing school called Asian Brain IMC. The teacher is Anne Ahira who had been very successful in the online business. She's actually one of the greatest internet marketer in the world and she comes from Indonesia!
I want to be like her someday, so I think I need to know how she can get to be what she is right now. That is why I join Asian Brain.
You can also join the internet marketing school. It's fully online. Register the school through below link.
http://www.AsianBrain.com/index.php?aff_code=977282

Once you have some online businesses to run to, you need to advertise. And I have found quite effective way to advertise by joining this website http://Iklan.CaraSukses.Com/?id=widyaviernanda

I can also advertise my husband architect business through above site. It is really great and easy.

Least but not least, the primary business for my family is the business run by my husband. The architectural design service, Vision To Live - Visi Cipta Tata Lestari.
We have a new website on http://www.vision2live.com/
However, the previous website is also still active http://www.vision2live.net/
We receive e-mail on info@vision2live.com
We can always be reached on these numbers: +62 21 33070199 (studio), +62 818844319, +62 8888417199 (mobiles).

Quite some businesses huh?!
Wish we can have good and successful result from them all! :)

Good luck everybody!

Last Night I Lost a Maid

Yes...happened just last night. When I was already asleep with my baby..at about 10.30 pm, my maid who had been taking 2 days off, called and said that she was coming back that night.

Well, ok, I thought she would be back for good..but alas, I was wrong, turned out that she'd be gone for good..:(

She came with her mother at about 11pm and then her mother sort of begged me to let her go so she could be home for good. Told that she was sick and should be resting at home or just going to the market where their family has a stall.

haaah.....didn't know what to do (just waking up, my mind was not clearly placed)..and so all I said was, "ok, verywell, you can pack your things and go home to your mommy.." (actually I only said it in my mind).

almost could not believe that we will be on our own again..:) looking some mess at home that we won't be able to clean or clear up as good as my maid would.

I just could not object or hold on to her so she did not go. Later on I sort of felt sorry why I didn't offer her more salary, or I should have said something to make her stay. But then, my husband brought his used coffee cup to the pantry and said, "I am washing the dishes, ok".

Wow, his sentence just made me relief and feel much better. He never washed the dishes when my maid was around! Yes, we will be able to make it on our own. We can share the cores again. We can cook, wash dishes, mop the floor, do the laundry and take care Voshan. Yes, no problem at all! We had been worse, and right now it's just not a problem. Everything will turn out right if we hold on together..:)

And then I started do the laundry and completely feel in control again. This is my home, and I can do everything my way! :D

Unprofessional People

Unprofessional people... Just realised that so many of them right now! and they are everywhere...in my office, in streets, and worse..in the government!

They are not just unprofessional, but they also opportunists who are able to do dirty jobs just to maintain their positions. in other words, they only care for the sake of themselves. So selfish aren't they?

Why can't they do the job in a much simple and proportional way? So everyone else can be happy. And when everyone is happy, of course they should be happy too right??

How can anyone be happy when their happiness or luxurious is resulted from the pain of someone else??

They might say that they need money for their family...but don't we all?!

Wouldn't it be much more long lasting if we can get money in a good way?

Please, can anyone enlighten me, why there are still so many unprofessional around us??

my baby is getting older..

it was a historical event in my baby's life yesterday, September 25, 2007. He could walk smoothly!! Well, he had been starting to stand up and taking his first steps about 3-4 months ago, but all this time, he was still lazy to walk or never really take many steps without holding to anybody or anything..

but now he can actually walk! wow! it's a great feeling that I have..my baby is growing older, bigger, and smarter.

I just think, how happy I am to be his parent. It is such great experience as a mother. Just realise the great love that I am feeling. I think a child is everything to a mother. No matter how naughty, how bad, how ugly a child is, his/her mother will still love him/her without demanding anything to be returned except the happiness of her child.

Now I know for sure that a mother's love is big and abundant to her child, can you imagine God's love to us all? :D

Oriflame business via online

I'm sure that almost all of you ever heard Oriflame. Yes, it's a famous cosmetic company from Sweden. In Indonesia, the brand may be compared to Avon and Sara Lee..but personally I think Oriflame is the leading brand.
It's being famous to be marketed via MLM or Multi Level Marketing, which means the distributors consist of uplines and downlines. People can get Oriflame products by order them via the distributors that can be contacted via live meetings, in other words offline ways.
But do you know that the MLM can be done online? through internet, emails, fax and telephone? You don't have to go to the store to order. Just send an email, or fax, or even drop message in the oriflame website and then the products just delivered to you in an instant. Wow..quite easy, don't you think?! This online system is designed by two great and internet experienced mothers, Ms. Dini Shanti and Ms. Nadia Yuniardo. The group is called d'BC Network.

It's very easy to be a distributor, and very affordable. This business is also not a very risky business but the profit can be quite promising.

So friends, if you want to know more about this business, just visit this site of mine:
http://www.dbc-bisnisku.info

see u there, folks..:D

Vision to Live -- the Architectural design for your lifestyle

My husband and I have just started a new business..well actually it's my husband business cause it's his expertise.

He's an architect so he will assist everybody who needs services from an architect. I help him in promoting the business via internet. And below is one of the template of promotion I have been sending to some mailing lists.

VISION to LIVE-------Architectural Design for your lifestyle

We will assist you in making your vision of a house/home/store/restaurant/apartment/office/other buildings or sites to live according to your lifestyle and your unique characteristics....

Our designs are environment-friendly, healthy and tend to improve the efficiency of energy consumed.

We will also be creative in using the materials so it will not cost you much and will never exceed your budget.

If you're interested in our service, please contact us through below ways:

1. Email: info@vision2live.com
2. Phones: +62 21 33070199 (studio), +62818844319 or +628888417199
3. Website: http://www.vision2live.com/

So everyone, just directly contact us if you need help in designing your home or any buildings, we will gladly help you in any way to make you satisfied with the results.

stigmata

not long ago i watched this movie for the second time on one of the tv stations. just realized that the message is almost the same with davinci code. they both try to present some maybe facts which had been denied by the largest religion institution in the world. but what made me like the movie was about the simple essence of fact that even though it sounds simple but people just keep forgetting or probably just not aware of what the exact meaning of it. i do not remember word by word precisely, but i just remember that "His house is everywhere, you can find Him anywhere, even in yourself. Turn some rocks and you can find Him there". so simple right?! simple but who says that it's gonna be easy? it's the matter of your spirituality, faith and awareness. but one thing first is that we have to understand and believe or have faith on that, then maybe you will grow to experience Him, see Him and feel Him everywhere. After you experience the Existence, then what more can you want?! nothing...lose yourself for finding Him..

once upon a time in a woman's life

after struggling with the delivery of my first son, i just realized the hardness of being a woman. there i was..feeling proud to be pregnant and excited of waiting the labor process and soon meeting my first child. it was tuesday morning..not so long after midnight..i felt a little ache in my stomach..but then i felt hungry..then i ate some rice and boiled chicken (my favorite). when i went to the bathroom, i found some red stains..then i thought i should go to the hospital.

i called my obgyn and he said ok, let's go to the hospital.

arriving in the hospital, i felt allright..little excited perhaps..but no pain at all..it turned out that i needed the pain. so i went for a frequent walk around the hospital. i already checked in, so without pain, it felt more like staying in a hotel..:) but soon it became boring and worrying. i arrived at dawn (about 3 am) and until the afternoon, i did not experience any more pain, or maybe just a little pain. so the doctor gave me an induction infusion, then the pain came..and gradually it became so painful and more painful all through the night.. i just could not sleep at all..i was really exhausted. the pain of the contraction was so awful! never thought that it could be so bad! but then the nurse said that the opening was still small. In the morning after, i just could not take the pain any longer, then i decided to have the surgery-c-section. My obgyn just could not argue, though he would like me to hold on until 10 am, but get real here?! i just want to sleep, ok! so they take off the induction, and finally i can rest my body and just relaxed for the upcoming surgery. the operation was nothing compared to the pain of the contraction. when the anasthetic filled my spinal cord, i felt numb on the chest to feet. the doctors were busy cut off my stomach while chating to each other. and i was just so sleepy when suddenly one of the surgeon said to me that i should be prepared cause they wanted to lift my baby. just an instant and i didn't think i felt something, suddenly i heard a loud cry! my baby cried! i heard him for the first time! tears coming through my cheek..finally i could get my baby out! what a hard work!! so hard being a mother, when i had only carried and gave birth..they were really hard!

i still had a long way of being a mother. nursing was the next. it was funny feeling all around. sometimes it was a little painful but it was just an incredible feeling. when the pain was gone, what left was the pleasure of giving meal to your baby, your precious part of you.

my baby is almost 5 months now. he looks so cute, handsome and beautiful, just make you think that you're the happiest person in the world! thank God! :-D

we belong together

do you know the song by mariah carey 'we belong together'? just across my mind..so i just put it as the title of this blog.
do we really belong together? well at least until now, i'm sure that he and i do belong together..
i met him online as yo and i was deey. had not been chatting online for quite a long time, but that night i just let myself to chat again..and then i met him online.
that first night was a quick encounter but i thought we just clicked each other. even i did not really think that it would be something special. btw, it was sunday night.
on the next day, i had forgotten about it, but surprisingly he sent me sms from the chat engine. after that we could continue get in touch with each other and then the conversation grew to sms via our cellphones until phone conversation.
i loved communicating with him. we just clicked. really got along well. so a week later we managed to take our relationship to the next level. that time we still didn't know how each other looks like.
when we finally exchanged photos, we really did not think that looks matter so much. he even made me two beautiful poems. he became a romantic person when actually he's not that romantic. right now, he's always embarrased when i mentioned about those poems..:-p
not until a month later, we could meet each other, cause we lived in different cities.
after the first meeting, he had done everything to live in the same city with me. he had and missed jobs several times, it was not easy at all. but we just sticked each other.
there had been very hard times..but we never thought of quiting our relationship. it had never been an option.
there had also been beautiful times as being together, we could really have fun. i think that i am always comfortable to be with him and i can be just exactly the way i am, without trying so hard to make it works.
After almost 3 years of our relationship, finally we could get married with His blessings. never thought that it could really happen, cause both of us were really busy with works and study but then God made it possible. Praise the Lord!
i realize that we can not always have peaceful relationship. there had also been many quarrels and disagreements, but that's life right? it's the spicy things about relationship.
today, i am just reminiscing the old times while expecting the delivery of my first son. the due date is August 29. wish us luck, ok..
then i guess, so far we do belong each other..until The Mighty God let us be..:-)

chocolate

this time i would like to write about chocolate. it's just a coincidence that yesterday my husband bought me one pack of dark chocolate of marks & spencer (how sweet of him!). it's an expensive chocolate. i'm not sure though why it's so expensive. because of it's imported or simply because it's quite better quality compared to other cheaper chocolate products. i must admit though that i love the taste of the chocolate. it's a bit bitter and less sweet, but it's just so tasteful for me. i'm chewing one coin of chocolate right now and only 2 coins left. oh no..i know i will not buy it in a short while, since it's just too expensive for 22 coins of chocolate bar..:-P. but i will keep the pack though to remind me how sweet my loving husband has been to me..:-)).
speaking bout chocolate, do u know that chocolate is healthy? it actually contains of antioxidant that can protect your body from harmful free radicals attack. it cannot make you fat either. actually what makes us fat is the milk, sugar, and butter in the chocolate products. so it's better for us to consume dark chocolate because it's less sugar and milk and contains high concentrate of chocolate.
i came up with this fact since i had written about chocolate products as my marketing plan assignment. hehe..what a task..thank God i did not do it by myself. it's been done by team and i got mark AB in the subject..praise the Lord!
chocolate is a very likable food. many people loves chocolate. maybe 90% populations in the world actually love chocolate. so, tell me when you are one of the people that do not like chocolate. cause i just don't understand why..
salam coklat..:-D

new idol from world cup 2006

hey..can anyone recognize whose picture this is? thanks to my husband, i am interested again in watching world cup 2006 on tv. and i'm more interested after i saw this cute guy (one of my interests..hehe), cute boy actually, cause he's still very young..21 years old. can you imagine that when i entered college in 1995, he was only 10 years old?! hahaha..

one of the indonesian tv commercials uses him as the model and he looked stunning there. he's a new idol for me. so many things can still happen in his life in his young age. hopefully he can maintain his talent and career quite a long time. i just remember my previous idol, the singer. i'm so proud of him cause he's still going strong career compared to his previous group mates. well i really don't want this new idol of mine walk out of his football career, cause i definitely would like to see him again on the next world cup championship. take care cute lad..:-))